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Understanding the Instinctive Responses of Loss

Understanding the Instinctive Responses of Loss: When a PN Has Lost, What Is Their Immediate Reaction?

When the narcissistic person faces defeat, they struggle to accept it. They believe they are perfect and cannot handle being rejected or losing. This means they don’t prepare for breakups, damage to their reputation, or getting fired because they think everyone wants to be with them. It’s hard for them to imagine anyone living without them.

Understand that the narcissistic manipulator lives in his own delusion

He acts arrogantly and tries to make himself feel better by showing off a false image of himself. To others, he appears smart, strong, and self-assured. He believes he’s better than everyone else and thinks that others should worship him. In reality, he doubts himself a lot and needs someone to feed his ego and give him attention. Without this, he feels worthless. The narcissist can’t survive alone or in a relationship without the attention and admiration he craves.

Many narcissists distance themselves from their families because they grew up with one or both parents who had narcissistic tendencies. This creates power struggles as the parents know how to put them in their place.
On the other hand, they try hard to build their own family – a group that will idolize and admire them. They need people they can control; without them, they feel powerless and unhappy.

Success lies in carefully choosing the people around you

Individuals who are targeted by a narcissistic abuser tend to possess strong empathy, giving their full attention and time to the abuser. These individuals are often easily manipulated, and those in their social circle must provide them with better status or social advantages. The victim typically assumes a submissive role in the relationship and avoids challenging the narcissist’s rules. Importantly, they must not draw attention to the toxic and dangerous behavior of the narcissist. If the narcissist is exposed, it signifies their defeat.

What can be considered a loss for a narcissist?

The narcissistic manipulator sees life as a game and everyone around them as puppets on strings. Losing is their worst fear, causing a cascade of consequences because they have a distorted view of themselves and react aggressively to anything that threatens their ego and public image. For the narcissist, loss means much more than just losing money or respect from loved ones; it’s like an entire domino system collapsing. In narcissistic perversion, loss is described differently.

The national park’s image is under threat

When someone challenges his self-image or suggests that he’s not as exceptional as he thinks, he sees it as a loss. This could be someone questioning his promotion or simply telling him they don’t like his fashion style. It all makes him feel less extraordinary than he believes himself to be.

Criticism or rejection

– Narcissists have fragile self-esteem.
– They find it hard to handle criticism or rejection.
– They might respond with anger, defensiveness, or by belittling others.

The loss of control

– Narcissists often feel the need to control every situation and person.
– Losing control can be really hard for them and a sign of deep loss.

The Failure

The narcissist chases success and admiration from people. Failing or not meeting their own expectations can deeply unsettle them.

Lack of focus

The narcissist seeks attention, affection, and unconditional love in a relationship. If they feel a decrease in admiration or attention from others, they perceive it as a loss and as a sign that they don’t deserve it. This can deeply affect their self-worth and confidence. In essence, the narcissist craves constant validation and reassurance from those around them to feel worthy and important. Their sense of value is closely tied to how others perceive and treat them, making any perceived neglect or lack of attention particularly distressing for them.

Being disregarded

– Narcissists constantly seek validation and recognition.
– Being ignored or neglected can be seen as a loss of the attention they believe they deserve.

What does the narcissistic person do when they lose their victim?

When a narcissist feels like they’re losing control or their victim is getting away, they become even more manipulative and controlling. They use tactics like guilt-tripping, gaslighting, and making the victim feel responsible for them. In an attempt to win back the victim’s favor, they shower them with love and affection, creating a temporary illusion of a perfect relationship through constant compliments and promises.

The triangle of the mountain

The narcissist often brings in a third person (real or imaginary) to create jealousy or competition. This is meant to make the victim feel insecure and more likely to stay. For example, they might claim that their best friend talks badly about the victim behind their back, or that their family thinks the victim has gone crazy.

Some narcissists even switch roles and portray themselves as the victims, alleging that their prey mistreats them or tries to ruin their lives, manipulating sympathy. In extreme cases, a narcissistic abuser may retaliate by trying to harm the victim emotionally, socially, or even financially. This can involve spreading rumors, disclosing private information, or using other means to damage the victim’s reputation.

Lastly, the narcissistic abuser may react to perceived loss by emotionally withdrawing or giving the silent treatment to the victim. This tactic aims to make the victim anxious and seek attention and approval from them.

A manipulator’s reaction when you leave them

When someone decides to break up with a narcissistic partner, it can be really tough. At first, the narcissist might struggle to accept that the relationship is over, especially if they think they have complete control. Then, anger and aggression can take over because the narcissist can’t handle being rejected. They may become verbally and physically violent and blame their partner for ruining their life. The fact that their partner has chosen to leave means the narcissist has lost power and control. This is a big weakness for them! To regain control or manipulate the situation, a narcissist may use tactics like guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or promising to change.

It could be an attempt to bring the partner back into the relationship

Some narcissists use a manipulative tactic called “love bombing” to shower their partner with excessive affection and attention in an attempt to win them back. This behavior creates confusion and leads the partner to question their decision. The narcissist may then portray themselves as the victim, claiming that their partner is abandoning or mistreating them. They may seek sympathy, support, and control over their partner’s life through threats and manipulation.

Narcissistic abusers might go as far as threatening their partner with regretting their decision or making their life miserable. They could also damage the partner’s reputation, disclose private information, or engage in harassment. Although not all narcissists exhibit these behaviors, some may experience periods of depression or despair when they realize they have lost a significant source of narcissistic supply.

These individuals can be highly manipulative and emotionally abusive, resorting to various tactics to maintain control over their partners while seeking validation and power for themselves.

  • Love bombing: A manipulative tactic used by some narcissists involving excessive affection and attention towards a partner.
  • Manipulation: Narcissists often manipulate situations to gain sympathy, support from others, or control over their partners’ lives.
  • Threats: Some narcissists threaten their partners with regret or misery if they choose to leave the relationship.

How does the narcissist react when they lose credibility?

When a narcissist’s public image is damaged or destroyed, their reaction can be very intense. It’s not just about a relationship ending, but also about the risk to their carefully crafted appearance. Initially, they deny any wrongdoing and blame others for the negative information. They might insist that it’s false, exaggerated, or part of a conspiracy against them. Feeling threatened in their grandiose self-image, the narcissist reacts with anger and aggression. This can lead to public outbursts, verbal attacks, and attempts to discredit or seek revenge on those they see as responsible for the damage.

Efforts to Manage Reputation

Some narcissists work hard to protect their public image, seeking sympathy and support by portraying themselves as victims of false accusations or malicious defamation. To avoid scrutiny, they may temporarily retreat from the public eye, using this time to regroup and plan their next moves. If their reputation is damaged, narcissists seek validation elsewhere by finding new followers, allies, or environments where their image remains untarnished. When faced with a tarnished public image, some narcissists intensify their egocentric and grandiose behaviors as a defense mechanism. This behavior may be influenced by narcissistic perversion and can involve engaging in strategies to reshape the narrative through public statements or damage control tactics.

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